Tighten admin page copy and TUTORIAL.md; fix auto_init divergence trap
Copy pass: cut restating the same point across a lead paragraph, a hint,
and a success message. Cut rhetorical framing ("the one thing worth
understanding first", "genuinely the right long-term direction") in
favor of flat statements.
Fixes a real bug found while adding f3.cyberwild.org live: the "add a
peer" instructions said to create the peer's repo with auto_init: true,
matching the very first repo-creation step earlier in the doc. For a
peer joining an already-active federation this is wrong — auto_init
gives the repo an unrelated first commit, which graft correctly reads
as a real divergence against the federation's existing history and
refuses to push. Corrected to auto_init: false / omitted, with the
failure mode spelled out, and added the same note as a hint on the
/add-peer form itself.